I had an idea for a post on marriage.
But I hesitated.
I’ve never written anything about marriage. It kind of scares me.
I’m not any kind of expert on the subject. I don’t really think I’m very good at this marriage thing at all. Some days I think I’m failing at it in every way.
Not that I think I’m an expert on anything else I write about. I’m learning as go through this life, and I’m sharing what I learn with you here.
Maybe I’ve learned something about marriage too? Maybe what I’ve learned is also worth sharing?
There’s something else too. Something I’m not sure I want to admit.
I’m a little bit afraid of myself.
I’m afraid I’ll be tested on what I say, and I won’t be able to live up to it. I’m afraid I’ll fall short. I’m afraid I don’t have what it takes.
The thing is though, no one really does. A Biblical, God honoring marriage is something that is only possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.
If I try to do anything for God without the help and guidance of The Holy Spirit, then I’m sure to fail. Or at least only see minimal fruit, if any.
I still have to reminded of that
Marriage is no different. We need to walk with the Spirit daily. The Holy Spirit must be the third strand in a cord of three.
Maybe that’s the most important thing I’ve learned.
Not to rely on my own strength and my own wisdom, but to seek God’s wisdom and His strength.
It’s God who ordained marriage, and God who holds our marriages up as examples of His love for His people.
Every trial, and every hardship is there to perfect our example.
Another thing I’ve learned is the devil hates marriage. He hates your marriage, and he hates mine. He hates it because God created it and ordained it. He hates it because it represents Christ’s love and sacrifice for the church.
That’s why he loves it when we put our needs ahead of our husband’s needs. He loves it when we hold grudges and punish each other.
But we don’t have to let him in.
We are not the devil’s daughters. He has no ownership, and no authority over our lives. We don’t have to wallow in the mud with pigs, and eat their slop. We are God’s children, sanctified and set apart, a royal priesthood.
But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light; 1 Peter 2:9
We are called out of the darkness to live in the light. The darkness has no place in our homes. Don’t invite it in.
Don’t set a place for the devil at your dinner table.
We invite darkness when we are ungrateful, when we let our anger simmer, when make our emotions more important than they should be, and when let our own needs take first place.
Am I guilty of those things? Yes, I am. But my mistakes don’t have to define my marriage. The grace of God is greater than all my weaknesses.
If I am willing to set aside my pride, admit that I need God every hour of every day, then my life and my marriage can stand as testament to the truths of God, and to His might, and His sovereignty, and His power over Satan, sin and death. He conquered them all two thousand yeas ago, and His victory still stands.
So I’m polishing my armor. I’m getting it ready. I may be tested, but God is the owner of this household, and the powers of Hell have no authority here.
I’m linking up with Grace & Truth.